The discussion on ways to find a spanking partner this week made me reflect on my own situation. The obvious dawned on me. It was easy for us to have multiple play partners as we view spanking as a whole meal. We do not need to add a side order of FLR or anything else. This was critical for me, as most women don't care to play with male switches for fear of being asked to punish them like they are his Mommy.
Spanking is fun and is sexual foreplay for us. She gets turned on being spanked and spanking me. Ditto for me.
I saw a picture the other day of two guys waiting to be spanked. Both had limp dicks. That would not be me. I would either be erect or heading out the door as something is going on that has spoiled the scene for me. It could be something she had done, it could be the room is frigid or something else that turns me off.
We may be exceptions.
I'm fairly sure there are plenty among the Spanko crowd who see it from your perspective Bogey, primarily as a sex drive and a complete meal. Spanking is 'sexy' on some level to the vast majority of spanking enthusiasts I've ever known. Yet, some don't see it as sex at all; their perception of it however as 'complete' being the same as yours. The only explanation I can see is there being layers and more levels to it than just sex alone. Not everyone reacts physically in the same way as you do, or at least in the same sequence? The less physical responses might be harder to understand what their enjoyment is from giving or getting a spanking might be, but it very much can still be there and as deeply satisfying as your own.
ReplyDeleteYeah, yeah, yeah. The reason I posted this: It was easy for us to have multiple play partners as we view spanking as a whole meal. You have not experienced being turned down to play because the woman fears what male switches want.
DeleteNo I haven't, that's true. Eventually, we can hope enlightened thinking will dispel the preconceived failures to understand what being a Switch is really about; the tendency to lump all switches together, assume reciprocity is even desired, or my favorite? Asserting all switches are closet subs. What a crock of... oh, well. Can't fix what Ron White suggested. The prejudice you mention certainly exists though, so I understand your concern and point.
DeleteBefore the first party we attended, I had no idea of the prejudice toward male switches. It was like a slap in the face. It took me some months to change some minds. I still bear animosity not toward the women, but toward the men who want a helluva lot more than a spanking. I don't like being stuffed in the same barrel with them. Frankly, many things they want done to them are offensive to me.
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