A University of Virginia professor writes - My female students are worried about the state of the opposite sex. The Women who take my “sociology of family” class tell of brothers living in their parents’ basements, boyfriends hooked on pornography, and male peers who don’t pull their weight in group projects. Most troublingly, many of these women say they have never been asked on a date.
The share of young men who are “neither in school nor working
has tripled since 1980. Meanwhile, 60% of young men between the ages of 18 and 24 still live with their parents, and according to Mr. Galloway, 45% of young men have never even approached a woman in person.
A “large and growing cohort of bored, lonely, poorly educated men is
a malevolent force in any society,” he writes, adding that
these unmoored men are vulnerable to “conspiracy theories, radicalization, and nihilist politics.”
The last sentence is quite worrisome to me. Uneducated men with time on their hands is a formula for violence.
Indeed.i have 5 young grandsons.
ReplyDeleteScott Galloway is vocal on this subject
https://www.theguardian.com/society/2025/dec/03/scott-galloway-masculinity-crisis-notes-on-being-a-man
He says the same in different words. “Men have a difficult time maintaining friendships without a romantic partner. They tend to reallocate that energy into conspiracy theory, going extremely online, porn – and they never develop the skills to establish a romantic relationship.”
DeleteI have two college-age grandsons, neither dates.
Exactly the same issues over here in the UK. Worrying indeed. But if one was of a certain inclination, it does leave the field free for 'silver foxes'.
ReplyDeleteI imagine some women are going unspanked. They are not being asked. And why would they want to be spanked by a soy boy?
DeleteI sometimes visit Reddit where the women proudly display their well spanked bottoms. No clue how representative they are of the whole.
Unfortunately I see many young men who fit the description. Several are sons of friends of mine who let these kids slip through life without any responsibilities. They overcompensated for their lack of parenting by giving these kids everything they desired or took the blame for their actions rather than giving them a good kick in the ass.
ReplyDeleteThey are disrespectful, spoiled little brats.
I also see an absence of physical activities now. Schools have eliminated any contact sport as violent and dangerous.
Add to the problem, social media. The cell phone and internet was a detriment to society
I am not going to blame it on the internet, but the parents who got them a phone at 12.
DeleteBeen reading a lot of stuff like that on this side of the pond too. Along with a lot about INCELs and knife crime.
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INCELs, just nuts
DeleteI couldn't agree more! Originally I thought the I phone was a great invention, but my perspective has changed. Couple the Iphone( or android) with texting, social media, Tic-Tok and "Influencers" you get toxic anti social mix. How many times have you seen 12 year-olds completely engaged with the phone at the expense of everyone around them? Not only that, they are so engrossed in the phone, they don't experience what is going on around them. Their world is in the basement of their parents homes and they don't see what a narrow life they have made for themselves. They have no input from outside of their virtual world.
ReplyDeleteSo, they become victims of whatever conspiracy theory or radical view point that comes by. You can see how easy it is for young minds to be ushered into a virtual world where they don't talk to anyone including those of the opposite sex.
This is where parents need to STOP pandering to every need and make them experience real life. Kids of 12, don't need phones, they need guidance from parents. Making them go into uncomfortable situations so they can navigate life in the future. Helicopter moms need to STOP, and Dads need to take the time to connect with their kids as they grow up.
Putting my soap-box away now.
We were latecomers to getting a cell. After we started traveling full-time in 2007, it was not all that convenient to use a pay phone. So we got a flip phone. That was all we needed. We would still have it, but Verizon dropped it.
DeleteAll that to say, we have no need to have a phone when we go out. They can leave a message if they want. When we see people walking the grocery aisles in non-stop chatter, we just shake our heads.
The current younger generations may not date, but they are glued to their phones like a pacifier.
One positive trend, an increasing number of schools in the UK have banned mobile phones. Those schools that have adopted the policy report an improvement in both the youngsters engagement with the lessons but also with one another. There's a surprise!!
DeleteI have read that a few schools here take them and give them back at lunch. Have to be careful. A mom took her son's phone this week. He killed her.
DeleteThat is disturbing. Assuming that that he was not born matricidal, perhaps too many hours on the wrong website made him so. Back in our day, boys worked off their aggression in safer ways.
DeleteMeTo, Believe, Woke, and modern day feminism combined with social media, has done no favors for male/female relationships. The public vilifying of traditional masculine virtues and traits, combined with plenty of stories about negative (legal) consequences for men trying to engage casually or romantically with women, have done our future society absolutely no favors either.
ReplyDeleteMobile phones and social media might be creating an epidemic of lonely people that never learn how to, or see the need to engage with people outside of the internet, but I don't see mobiles being at the heart of young men not approaching women in the same degree as earlier.
Well said. I agree phones have not been the cause, but it was easy to transfer one's attention from females to GTA, etc.
ReplyDeleteMy concern is that the generation does not have job skills, so I guess they will be "on the dole" all their lives. We are spending 29% of the Federal budget on welfare already.