Why She Can't Be Spanked

I don't recall any difficulty in communicating with Bacall when we married. It took decades to develop. Now, extracting the answer to a simple question takes three tries. If I ask her if she can think of anything I don't already have on the grocery list, I open a channel for a one-word reply, Yes or No. Those are never the first words out of her mouth. Her reply sounds like the start of a long story. I interrupt her, I am not interested in that right now, only if you can think of something not already on the list. Her second reply will be a shorter story. My blood pressure increases, and I usually get a useful reply on the third try.

I asked her to write the dialogue that might happen between two couples when the women are told they will be spanked. This is what I got. Not bad. But not what I asked for. I will try again.

I can’t be spanked because:

1.  I’m just so cute and have a precious smile

2.  Surely you aren’t mean enough to hurt me

3.  It will have to wait until my nails are dry

4.  Only bratty girls get spanked, and I’m not bratty, just a little sassy

5.  I need to cook dinner

6.  Most importantly, I have a serious problem.  Sometimes, and I don’t know why, but I get the giggles, and that just makes you want to spank harder.  I’m afraid you would hurt yourself, and that would make me very sad.

Holes or No Holes Redux

Cant't read? Don't have time. Scroll to the end for pictures.

Comments are open.

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A question that will never be settled. Well, it has long been settled for me, but the majority of people think otherwise.

Some believe the Earth is flat, that no one has walked on the moon. Some believe that a paddle with holes is meaner than an identical one without holes. OBB readers ask AI. 

Back in February, a reader asked AI to weigh in on:

Holes or No Holes

Now, another reader posed the question to Google AI

Leaving aside the physics determining the force of impact, are there psychological elements that make it seem worse to be spanked with a paddle with holes in it than with one with similar dimensions, weight, and type of wood?

Google AI responded as follows, providing support for a psychological effect (though some of what it pulls up is tripe, IMHO. I mean, have y'all ever met a spankee who whines about having "trypophobia"?!)

AI OVERVIEW

Assuming that the physical force of impact is equal, several psychological elements can make a spanking seem worse with a perforated paddle. These factors can heighten anxiety and emotional distress before and during the punishment.

INTIMIDATION AND THREAT

Symbolic threat. The holes in the paddle act as a clear, visible sign that the implement is designed for inflicting maximum pain. This visual detail creates a heightened sense of intimidation and a more significant psychological threat than a solid paddle.

Deliberate design. Knowing that the holes were specifically engineered for punishment suggests an intention to maximize discomfort. This deliberate cruelty, whether real or perceived, can feel more malicious than an action taken with a simple, solid object.

ANTICIPATION AND ANXIETY

The "buzz" or sound. As the holed paddle moves through the air, it can create a distinctive "whooshing" or buzzing sound. This aural cue can increase anticipation and dread as the recipient waits for the inevitable strike. The sound becomes a built-in trigger for anxiety, possibly worse than the quiet approach of a solid paddle.

The wait. The psychological impact of corporal punishment is often rooted in the anticipation of the event. Seeing or hearing the specialized paddle can increase this pre-punishment anxiety, making the waiting period more stressful and emotionally taxing.

FOCUS ON CONSEQUENCES AND HUMILIATION

Exaggerated markings. Paddles with holes often leave more distinct, patterned marks on the skin. A person who knows they will bear these specific imprints may feel a greater sense of shame or humiliation. The patterned bruises act as a "proof" of the punishment, creating a more memorable and potentially embarrassing physical consequence.

Increased focus on pain. The visual marks, along with the "hornet-like" sting sensation sometimes described, make the focus of the punishment the inflicted pain itself, rather than the behavior that prompted it. This can reinforce a feeling of helplessness and emotional distress, as the pain is what is most vividly remembered.

INVOLUNTARY REACTIONS

Trigger for discomfort. For some people, particularly those with trypophobia (aversion to clustered holes), the sight of the holed paddle can trigger a visceral reaction of disgust or discomfort before any physical contact is made. This adds a layer of distress that is unrelated to the physical strike but contributes to the overall negative psychological experience.

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I think that is a decent answer from the view that it’s a punishment. Since I don’t believe paddling is a real punishment, I discard most of the answer.

If the spankee thinks it will cause pain, the wait, the anticipation, the fear will be amplified even when it’s exactly what she wants.

I have never heard a paddle make a buzz. Poor hearing?

I have never noted any rings made by the holes. Of course, I sanded the holes smooth on the few I made with holes.

trypophobia???

Holes or not, I would wager more adult women have experienced a wooden paddle than have female adolescents.

Is she purring?

She is either offering you a choice or showing you both paddles she is going to use on you.

This one should cover the widest of bottoms

Why Do I Post the Pictures I Do?

Why do I post the pictures I do? They're not all that easy to find. I must pan 100 or more to find one acceptable. You can look through any BDSMLR site, and you won't have to scroll far to find bottoms that look like they came from a meat locker. I don't care for these. They are a turn-off to me.

I have spanked some women who have turned black, blue, and yellow from a moderate paddling. They cherish their bruises while I try not to look. Others I have paddled long and hard, and they turn pink and return to white within a half hour, and are eager for another paddling.

Then there is the problem of finding pictures that are well-exposed and don't have an off-putting background. What's with this spanking in bathrooms and basements and clothes on the floor?

I am weary of F/F and schoolgirl pictures.

I post more pictures of younger women, those under say 35, than I do of more mature women. Why? For the same reason that I like puppies and kid goats.

Even older, wiser dogs

I like pictures that make me think about how much fun it might be to spank her. Nudity is not required. Lust, anticipation are all part of it.

On another topic, someone posted this last December on X.

Eight months later, my reply to her mime is still drawing likes. Today's was number 598.

Too much emphasis by men on discipline/punishment.

Which speaks to my point, guys, spankings can be fun.

The First Time

I made a post this morning. It's gone - poof. I have no idea what happened. The text is not recoverable, but I got the images off a backup of my hard disk.

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The first time we discussed spanking with another couple was a year or two after we got married. They were about our age and lived in the neighborhood. I knew him from college. They came over for dinner and I am sure copious amounts of alcohol.

He started talking about how they spanked their young boy, about six as I recall. They used a fly swatter. He continued on about it, I suppose a little too long and I said without thinking (my usual form) What do you spank her (his wife) with?

Before he could reply, she said A belt.

Mutual revelations continued for some time. But we all kept our clothes on. I thought the evening ended on a high note, but I don't recall seeing them again.

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Myassisdragon

I have mentioned how Bacall is progressing. Excellent range of motion, but still a good amount of pain. I have not shared how her surgery is affecting me. First, I am anemic (from Leukemia). Doing anything quickly tires me. There are simply not enough red blood cells to carry the requisite oxygen. For example, I cook a meal in stages. I spend 15 minutes on preparation, then rest for 15 minutes.

She seems to constantly need something, so I am up and down a lot. All this means I have less time and less energy to post here.

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