This is been in the Drafts folder for a year. I had some thoughts I want to add to it, but I forgot them.
So here it is, as is.
In an old post I posed the question In most spanking stories and spanking video's, the spanking takes place as punishment. Do most spankees need a reason for the spanking? Or put another way, would you be just as happy getting a spanking just because?
I know your question was directed at spankees, but I will offer my thoughts as one who only delivers spankings; in case you are interested.
I get spanked for all different reasons and get spanked just because....P wants to. You know me, I'll take any spanking:)
In my opinion, doesn't matter, how, why or for whatever reason you are spanked as long as it's consensual and both parties happy.
I follow Ronnie and yes she loves to get spanked (as I do too) Some times she finds a reason some times P spanks her because he wants to but usually gives her a reason. I get spanked because I'm submissive to my wife and I love presenting my bottom to her for spanking. She also loves spanking me and many times has told me to get her some implements so she can spank me. Now having said that I will also say she has given me punishment for real reasons and they are not play and no sex after just a good hard spanking the type you wish had not happened. Is the punishment consensual YES. I do have a temper and I do snap at her at times and too many times she will ask me to do something and I keep putting it off. Does the punishment change the problem. you better believe it does and for a long time. I follow many blogs here and each person that gets spanked or does spank has their own reason. I enjoy what they have to say and am happy they found a way to enjoy themselves.
I don't do punishment spankings, at least not for me. I'm adult. I just like to be spanked. So I ask my wife and she spanks me. I am a switch but my wife is not into being spanked. That's ok. I love her and I can go with that. In the past I had a friend who wanted and needed punishment spankings. I have punished her. When we just playing I could wear her bottom out and not get a tear. When I punished her she was crying from the start. I guess it's all in the mind set of the individual.
Our spankings are never for punishment, only for fun because we both enjoy them.