Last month I tried to put down my thoughts about pain and submission. I give myself a C for effort. My points did not come across. We remain amazed that some endure pain only to be submissive.
An anonymous wrote: It's not really a spanking if the spankee decides when to stop. That decision should be left up to the spanker, IMO.
That is not even remotely close to the theme of this Blog. We are only into consensual spanking. The spanking stops when we want it to stop. If it stops before we are ready, we ask for me. Real simple to us.
I have to echo what Lea said. I also enjoy being pushed to my limits, and submitting is part of the enjoyment of spanking for me. I know I am not going to be treated brutally, and have every confidence in my loving partner to judge when I have had enough. To each his/her own, as always.
That’s fair. We sometimes like our our limits pushed. The difference is that we let each other know when that is on our mind. I suppose that some people are mind readers. We don’t have that ability. I also suppose that some spankers can read the bottom and know when they have had enough. I fail at that more than not and always on the easy side Bacall will sometimes back off, when she needs to stay the course. Hence we have learned to express ourselves.
We talk to each other, verbally and non-verbally to get the spanking we want. Yeah, I know that is not something a submissive could do. Think of Erica, could you say she is a submissive? Does she get the spanking she wants? I am just saying that old fashioned conversation about needs is perfectly alright in between spanking partners.
As I said before, submission is intoxicating. It’s just not something that we can completely do. We are both take charge types