We read the responses to a MBS Brunch on self talk when taking a spanking. That was something new to us. We don’t talk to ourselves. Each other, yes. As in, you hit me there one more time and….., or harder please, or not so hard please.
We don’t endure spankings. We enjoy them. We ask for spankings just like we want them. There is no submissive dynamic going on. Well, damn little anyway.
These are a few of the comments we read that showed how different our spankings are to the way others experience them.
When I am spanked, I focus on each stroke and repeat "You can take one more." Using that phrase gets me through most hard spankings.
We often want more and we may ask for it. And if we are done before the spanker thinks we are done, we speak up and end it.
…if I am receiving 24 strokes of the cane and I have taken 18 knowing that I have only 25% left helps me endure the remainder.
No enduring here. If we ask for 24, we look forward to each one. If not, we end it.
And from a reader here:
I think she uses both hands but don’t like to ask. I did mention once that "your supposed to be spanking my bottom not burying a nail" but I wished I hadn’t.
We understand the concept of submission. It can be very attractive and even intoxicating. But, we just can not see letting go of mutual consent. We want it like we want it and will not settle for less.