We have written several posts about spanking parties. If you care to read them, just click on ‘Spanking Parties” in the right margin. One of the posts What Happens at Spanking Parties? is fairly descriptive of our experiences.
Why this was on my wee mind again is that I recently read that several women had put attending a party on their bucket list. So I thought I would offer my opinions on the subject. I will do so speaking as the man of a couple. I have no experiences in any other capacity. I would not presume to speak with any precision of what a single person needs to know about such parties.
Most of the parties we have been to have been private affairs. We have only been to two public parties. We definitely prefer private to public. One reason is that the public ones tend to be heavily attended and if you don’t know the people, you could be left in the dust. It helps the man if he has one or more spankable bottoms with him. Most of the action takes place in suites. If you are invited good. If not, you may wish you had saved your money. We have heard that from a lot of folks. That is certainly true of the grand daddy of them all Shadow Lane.
Some public parties have more single males than single females. Regrettably, it always seems that when this happens, the men are not exactly Sean Connery look-a-likes.
Not that many married couples attend parties.
Most of the men are courteous and respect limits.
If you are into spanking, but not so much the many aspects of BDSM, be careful about parties hosted at dungeons. You may see more than you care to see. I mean after you have seen a man pulling a cart tethered to his scrotum once, it may get old. You will also find more of the slaves and masters crowd. If you want to be tied to St. Andrews cross and flogged this would be your venue. Bacall loves to show off. If you want to better understand this, may I suggest you read the chapter Spanking vs. BDSM in Erica Scott’ new book Late Bloomers.
Body shape: All shapes will be represented. Some groups seem to have more Rubenesque folks. Something to try and ascertain in advance if this is a concern.
Dress: Men would do well to dress in what I call business casual: nice slacks, ironed shirt, shined shoes. Suits are desirable in some venues.
The REALLY BIG CAVET about parties is jealousy. If your relationship can not tolerate your mate playing nude with a person of the opposite sex behind closed doors, you should rethink your party plans. I can empahsize this enough.
I hope that other bloggers will post something about what to expect at parties, do’s and dont’s, etc. Parties can open a window in you that you did not know existed.
Our party days are over. We were not getting much out of them. Sure I can dress black-on-black and spank women all night. However, such activity gets me revved up to be spanked. And there are damn few women who really want to top. A few will, but their heart is not into it and that is worse than no spanking at all.
We have been posting 5 to 7 days a week for almost a year. Posts will be less frequent in the coming months. First, our lives are changing a bit. All good, but there will be less free time. Second, I am about out of things to say.
I do have a lot of pictures that I want to share, but verbiage will be less. Stop clapping!