I'm reading "Self / Discipline: How Spanking Changed My Life" by Andrew Cameron and wanted to share this quote with you.
"What's interested me, after fifteen years of searching, is how many of us there are who are normal people doing normal jobs with normal social skills and normal intelligence, lifestyles, and backgrounds but who have spanking as a part of our lives. I have in mind teachers, a surgeon, a chef, a journalist, several musicians and actors, a few secretaries, a fashion model, lots of students and two church administrators -all, as far as one can tell, living happy and fulfilled lives. These are not loners or depressives and none of them were abused as children; many weren't even smacked growing up. We could have had stamp collecting in common. In fact, we had this."
That has been our experience as well. Just as with vanilla's there are some exceptional types we have met.
A time long ago, I knew these women. I only played with two of them and that a mistake.
Leelee lived with her husband and two young boys, under 10, on her parent's farm. Her husband seemed a nice guy and was a good earner. He spanked her, at her request, every day. It was not enough. She left for the big city to get spanked more. And she did. She never had a meaningful job but lived with men and women who would support her for a time, before kicking her to the curb. She did not have any contact with her family. That may have been her family's decision.
Katie is an uber bright woman with five grown children. You have to be bright to get through organic chemistry. She decided she needed accountability and punishment more than anything else. That was something her husband and kids could not understand. They disowned her. She paid the costs of the divorce. She now has a man living with her that paddles her with regularity. She can not have sex with her Daddy. She has decided that accountability and punishment are more important to her than sex or being married.
Vicki is a bright, imaginative, non-orgasmic woman. She was the first to teach me that a submissive will do anything to get a dom. When it was no longer fun, I threw in the towel. She went on to disgrace herself with two married men, giving one them a costly divorce and his elected office. I confess to giggling about that as he thought he had bested me in winning her.
Kathy - I met her one week. She played with Bill the next week, Tom the following and came to our home the next. She already had Tom in tow by that time. In the next two months, she had Tom to tell by email, copying her, every woman he had played with that he was now exclusive to her. [Who was the real dom here?] They married and divorced within a year. We thought Tom was quite fortunate as we think she murdered some or all of her six ex's for insurance and pensions. Don't you think 6 ex's are a little extreme for a 38yo?
Charlie was a 35-year-old virgin. She liked to be spanked, paddled and whipped all night. She fell in love with a guy before she met him in person. He was a real prize, good looking for sure, but a three-time loser in marriage, uber possessive and a drunk. She finally lost her cherry, but not to him.