Foolishness since 2007

Foolishness since 2007
Foolishness since 2007

Wednesday, August 16, 2017

How Men Like To Be Spanked

Back in July, I answered the questions on a defunct blog about how men like to be spanked. [You don't need to, but if you care to go back to that post it's titled I Tell All.]

I wanted to see if the answers revealed anything that I considered useful. So I tallied up the responses to four of the questions. 

15. Do you like to be spanked in role-play, real life situations, or no situation?

18. For true offenses, made-up ones or none?

21. While being spanked do you feel: turned on, enjoyment, satisfaction, pain, other.

22. While being spanked do you: get an erection, remain soft, leak fluid, orgasm.


Here are a few observations made based on the responses of 56 respondents.

22 men were only interested in being spanked for real offenses. 15 of those felt pain only. Most started out soft. All ended up soft.

Another 22 men liked to be spanked only in role play. 7 started and ended erect. 5 started erect and ended soft. 7 started and remained soft. The remaining 3 experienced an orgasm.

Spanking is always sexy to me. If Bacall tells me she is going to spank me my sexual response indicator goes up. 

But this survey tells me, that some men only want to be spanked for real life offenses and they experience pain, not sexual excitement. Surprise to me.

Then there are those that only like to be spanked for made up reasons. This group reported it was sexually exciting.

I suspect that in the first group there are those who commit little offenses they know will earn them a spanking. Like going in the kitchen when the wife is cooking and making a smart remark. He knows that his well-trained wife will have him drop his pants so she can paddle him with a handy cooking spoon. He thanks her for punishing him. He knows that they can have make-up sex later. I don't think this group belongs in the real life or role play category. Is there a bull shit category? How does the wife see it? Role play? She certainly can not believe she is having any effect on his behavior as he keeps doing it again and again.

Personally, I don't need a reason to spank or be spanked. Bend over works for us. Bacall can go into role play in a heart beat and do my best to be her foil.




Monday, August 14, 2017

Garter Belts, More Lingerie

Ronnie posted a clip of Michael Fassbender, who is apparently a heartthrob, buying lingerie. A few of the comments indicated that some women were not familiar with garter belts. Or perhaps they did not know that men liked them. I came of age when hose were being replaced by pantyhose. I like women in hose, so Bacall and I went garter belt shopping many times in our early marriage. She had all the colors. She wore the damnable pantyhose to the office, but would humor me and wear hose on our weekend "dates". She got paddled every time.

I doubt any of Ronnie's female readers will see this informational post on what one man likes, but perhaps a few readers will enjoy it.



The traditional black


 But there are many more choices






All that you need to do just before you both go out the door to dinner



Wednesday, August 9, 2017

Our View Of Consensual Spanking

I have several posts in mind that show how Bacall and I view consensual spanking and how it differs with the way others view it. I found this in my To Post folder and it says what we think. I recognize the latter part as my own. I don't think I wrote the first seven paragraphs. The sentence construction is better than mine. I must have I found it on the net and rewrote it.

One of the conundrums of our interest is the reluctance
to ask for it. We learn before we can really talk, to "ask" for what
we want, those things that give us pleasure. But how do you ask for a
spanking? That's punishment, pain, we are not supposed to want that.

So how to do ask for something that you want, but the very asking for
it makes it less desirable to you? You want to give up some control
and to feel controlled. So how do you top from the bottom? (And that's
what has to be done). The bottom has to let the top know what they
want. There have to be some communications and some feedback. Just like
a back rub, we all want it differently. If I rubbed your back like I
liked my rubbed, it would probably not work for you. But unless you
told me, "higher", "rub in a circle right there" and so on, I might
think I had given you the best back rub you had ever had.

Clearly, there needs to be some way for spanko's new to each other to
talk to each other without "blowing the whole scene". Both have very
strong fantasies and to reveal them would mean they are no longer a
fantasy, but a shared knowledge. I think some fantasies are best
locked away for private use. This does not mean that clues about the
nature of the fantasy can not be verbalized, in fact, they must be.

So how can topping from the bottom work, especially in a non-committed
relationship? (i.e. play between two people that have no romantic
interest, that may not even see each other again. To wit, play at a
party) Well, here's a suggestion that might work on that level.

Let's use a teacher/student relationship as the model. The teacher is
a classic authority figure - the teacher must be obeyed. If not, the
student will suffer the consequences. Notice also that this model does
not require any "baggage", any emotional bonds. This could be the
students first day at a new school, no previous relationship is
needed. This is helpful to the role play as likes and dislikes can be
discovered without revealing any "secrets". And everyone can play the
teacher/student model, without so much as a second thought.

Here is where the student can teach the teacher.
The student reports to the teacher for the spanking.

Yes, Julie, why are you here?
Mrs. Markston caught me smoking in the girl's room.
Yes...
And I was rude to her when she told me to put my cigarette out and come
with her.
I see. And what happens to any student that is caught smoking on
school grounds the second time?
They get spanked.
That's correct, this is your second time and I am now going to spank
you.
Gulp!

I wrote all that follows

Another way:
Julie come over here and look at these paddles (or whatever)
I want you to pick the one that you think you deserve.
I want you to be honest, this is a serious offense, so pick the one
that you know you deserve.
(Julie selects one)


Still another way and my preference:
OK, Julie, would you be more comfortable bending over the desk or
laying over my lap?
(Julie decides and assumes the position)
Julie, I am going to raise your skirt, as it would be meaningless to
spank you over your skirt, slip, and panties. You would not feel a
thing, would you?
No, sir.
The first swap is applied.
Julie, that swap was what I call a five, a medium swap.
I want you to tell me if you thought it was too hard or too light?
If you think it should have been harder, I want you to say a higher
number. If you think it was too light, then I want you to say a lower
number. Do you understand?
Yes, sir.
OK, then what is your answer and I want you to be honest.

This could continue by asking Julie if she has learned her lesson or
not after every 10 swats. Honest Julie would have to tell the truth. I have employed this many times on new bottoms. It works.

In this simple model, a great deal of what the bottom wants can be
learned on the first encounter, without the bottom giving up any deep
secrets or asking for a spanking. It should also be obvious that the
top has learned the bottoms limits, without exceeding them.

I enjoy emphasizing the erotic or role-play aspects rather than punishment or pain..... I enjoy giving pleasure to others and receive pleasure from knowing play has been mutually enjoyable.



I like reading the bottom's responses, adjusting the spanking,
pushing them, then pulling back, letting them catch their breath just
in time for another onslaught.  Catching them off guard, then wearing
down their resistance. It is like dancing, it's like acting. It's art.
Knowing how to spank, where to spank, how fast, how slow, even, random,
patterned, unpredictable.  Listening, feeling, seeing the bottom.
Hearing the change in their breathing, feeling their body, seeing
their bottom redden. They let me touch their soul in away.  They make
themselves vulnerable to me. They put that responsibility in my hands.
Sharing base emotion with them. Showing the emotions that we usually
keep hidden away in our daily lives. Pain, fear, tears.
And then the aftermath of the spanking.

Taking them to that place in their mind and body where they are open
and exposed and totally vulnerable, then holding them.  Protecting
them. That is amazingly beautiful to me.  In some ways, it is like peeling
away layers to get to the pure essence. All the layers of protection
are drawn away, all the defenses are stripped.  That's part of the
challenge and the beauty of a spanking. Seeing each layer. Knowing
how to peel it away. Which techniques will wear away the defenses
without destroying the precious soul at the center.



Monday, August 7, 2017

Retro Lingerie

This sort of lingerie was before my time, but remnants of it remained during my youth.

There was a girl in the seventh grade who wore a bullet bra. I doubt her Mother knew she did. No, I never saw her bra, just the effect it had on her sweater and me.


This was "porn" for me in the 60's


I saw these type of pictures in male magazines that were popular in the auto repair business and in the first spanking magazine I saw at 19.


I think these pictures "warped" my mind. Yes, they must have as the following picture is one of my favs. She is not particularly good looking. The lingerie is not sexy. The setting is cheap looking. Still, I would love to go a round with her.


She looks better without glasses



Wednesday, August 2, 2017

Potpourri

You know what happens when I accumulate photos that are not related and I have no other ideas. It potpourri day. Now I am out of both photo's and ideas.

I don't know if that aircraft ever has the call sign Air Force 1 or not, but it is a special mission aircraft.


 Vintage for sure. Hotel room. What is the device on the headboard?

Yep, that about covers it

I saw this in a parking lot and it reminded me of announcements on my HS intercom. The dreaded "The following students report to the office" And you knew the paddle awaited you.

I will finish with these two tarts who are begging for a paddling.