Is Bacall spanked more than you or is it about equal?Have you or Bacall every used a cane?Love,Ronniexx
Over the long run, I get the paddle more than Bacall. In a shorter period, she can get more attention than I do. It all depends on our moods. We have both used and felt a cane. I am the only one she has canned. I have caned other women. It's fine, but the wood paddle remains our fav.
How do you decide who gets the spanking? How long have you been practicing TTWD and what made you start?Hugs Lindy
We tentatively started paddling before we were married. Her first and then I got the nerve to tell her I wanted the same.Over the years, we have slowly, and not without bumps, gotten to a place where we can ask for the paddling we want. We understand that removes the dom/sub factor and the I have to take what I get, but for us, it works, because we don’t have a subby bone in us. In the last two decades, we have found ourselves able to tell the other, I need the so-so paddle while I kneel on the sofa or whatever pops in our heads. That’s not to say we don’t get some surprises from time-to-time. Bacall was the one to introduce asking for what I want to the mix. I followed her led.Bacall also introduced what she calls joint action paddling, meaning we both get paddled. These replaced it’s my turn sessions. These became our most common sessions. However, Bacall especially, will ask for an An All Me session.Hope this answers your question and thanks for asking.May I ask you a question? Do you think our arrangement would work for other couples? A few, some, or?
Thank you for your answers. This arrangement might work for other couples. I know my Bear is the spanker in our house and I'm the spankee. We did try it the other way around once but Bear didn't like it. Its good that you are both into it and it works this way for you.Hugs Lindy
What was the most memorable spanking each one of your received from each other, in your life long association with this enjoyable fetish.
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