OK, here I go again on topic that may offend some. But, rather than be offended, why not try to explain to me, in a gentle manner, why I feel the way I do.
Regular readers of OBB know how we employ spanking in our lives. Neither of us ever completely give up control. No discipline, no punishment. That rules out DD, HoH, FLR and whatever else there is.
I am dominate in both personality and appearance. Bacall is normally charming, well liked, but wants it her way. Cross her and she will rip your throat out. We are both alpha’s.
No problem so far. Here we go.
I am repulsed by what I think is the mainstream male submissive. The desire to be humiliated is over the top for me. I know many would tell me to live and let live, but I feel these guys ruin it for me. If a guy wants to wear a dog collar, have his balls crushed by high heels, and be whipped that is his right. But I strongly resent it when this image is reflected on me when I only want to be spanked. Why you may ask does this get me revved up? I have experienced rejection more than once. I say I switch and the woman envisions me wanting her to chain me a cart by my balls and and pull the cart around. They are out the door before I can explain.
I have seen these guys at parties. Sitting by themselves, not talking, looking forlorn and wimpy. I have even tried to engage them. Make them feel better. Suggest they join in, to no avail.
Or perhaps I am wrong? Perhaps women’s attitude have changed? Ronnie recently posted a male submissive drawing by Underling, who to me, epitomizes the submissive male desire for humiliation. I was amazed by the number of positive comments from women that Ronnie received for the words she wrote. Is male submissiveness now accepted? Based just on the comments to her post it would seem so.