I have seen three posts on switching recently. Erica started it off when she wrote about the unlikely need for tops to bottom, and vice versa, to understand the dynamics. I agree. You should enjoy and relish the position. That’s the only reason to assume either position.
I love both positions. I am drawn equally to both. I am turned on by both. I do not want to be dominated. And beyond what I term bedroom submission, I don’t want to dominate anyone. As for anyone dominating Bacall, well be in good shape and bring a lunch and she might go a few rounds with you before sending you packing.
I want my spanker to be happy and spirited. I want her to smile and swing the paddle with gusto. When I suck in my breath after a paddle lick, she might remark Oh that was a good one wasn’t it? Many women enjoy teasing a man to pleasure with their mouth and palms. I like the same kind of talent and energy from a paddler.
Most of the women I have encountered look down on male switches, since the way they think, they can not bottom and still be manly. Well, I was never as broad chested as John Wayne or Robert Mitchum, but I am as tall, with a low voice that can chill ice water and piercing brown eyes. In short, I look the part and I can be a dom with the best of them – when I want to.
[I used actors that well known to my generation, rather than wimps like Justin Bieber who seem to the rage of the current generation. Both men could look menacing, but were always gentlemen. Put it this way, back a 35 yo Wayne in a corner and if you were male, expect your lights to go out and if female a spanking]
In the last few years Bacall has become completely comfortable with both of us getting paddled during the same session. We both get turned on giving and receiving.
I have written before that at parties I hid my desire to be paddled since most women avoid bottoming with male switches so they will not be asked to reciprocate. It’s verboten. I tired of the masquerade. I was not getting what I wanted and I quit the parties.
Kaelah wrote that she prefers to play with switches. Well, I would too. The facts are that there are many male switches and precious few female switches. Enjoy Kaelah.
You might think that since Bacall switches we might encounter other compatible couples. That has not been the case. Usually we have found that the man much prefers to bottom and be dominated. Not our cup of tea.
Of course, finding a women who relishes wielding a paddle is difficult and most that try have no clue how to paddle. They may say that they are experienced, but I have stopped more than one session because the woman was careless in her aim. Being hit on the side is no fun.
Switches can not be all bad. Erica’s long time lover is a switch. She does not top him, but she loves him. Her current spanker is also a switch who she gives high marks to as both a skilled spanker and as a caring, compassionate person. I always thought the latter traits led to the former.
There was a third post about switching posted to I Am A Secret Spanko. I read it and bookmarked it to go back to. When I returned I found it is now an Invited Only Blog. I know of no way to get invited. And so it goes. To women that are unsure. Want a back rub? Give one.
There was a third post about switching posted to I Am A Secret Spanko. I read it and bookmarked it to go back to. When I returned I found it is now an Invited Only Blog. I know of no way to get invited. And so it goes.
To women that are unsure. Want a back rub? Give one.