Jacqueline Omerta is a psychologist, pro-domme, wife, and self-confessed spanko. She is the author of "You Would If You Loved Him" written to help women understand the needs of submissive men.
The reasons why someone likes to be spanked may be as varied as the ways there are to be spanked. All of us have wondered where our fetish comes from.
Something Mrs. Omerta said makes some sense to me. She said that fear and humiliation are so powerful it can become sexually linked. I know that I feared being paddled as a kid. I know that it was humiliating when other kids knew I was paddled.
I am sure you know of people who because of a prior trauma where fear or stress, justified or not, has rendered them incapable of leading a normal life. Fear causes the release all sorts of hormones. So those hormones coursing through our bodies at a tender age could be one reason that some of us come to relish being spanked.
I will never forget the fear that erupted in me every time I was sentenced to a paddling. Normally there was a wait from the time of the sentence to the execution. A time that I stewed in my own juices, hormones, so to speak. If others knew that I was to be paddled or found out about it later, that made it all the worse for me.
So perhaps fear and humiliation made me a spanko? It’s the best theory I have heard that fits me. Or maybe that’s just psycho mumbo-jumbo?